We can all learn to listen better. When we make that effort, the other party is motivated to try harder too. If you and someone else are not understanding each other, at least make sure the fault does not lie with your inability to listen. Before meeting someone, cleanse your ears carefully and chant: “Release the need, let go desire; personal wants shall all be banned, save the need to understand.” Resolve that your only task is truly to understand what the other party wants and feels. During the conversation listen carefully. Repeat back to the person what you think you heard, paraphrased in your own words, and ask questions when you need to. When the other party is finished, and you both agree that your understanding is correct, wait for a moment and think deeply about the other’s viewpoint before you respond.