If you encounter someone who seems very closed and defensive, unwilling or unable to hear what you have to say, try this spell. Sit down or place yourself lower than the other person. Be loose and relaxed; do not cross your arms or legs. Make your breathing slow and even. Visualize your aura (energy field) and draw it close to you. Imagine yourself holding a sword, and the other party holding a huge shield. Between you is a stone wall. In your mind's eye, put down the sword and watch the wall fade away. Silently invite your opposite to set aside the shield. Now invite the other party to speak, by saying something such as, "Can you tell me how you're feeling right now?" Listen, and listen some more. Watch the other's defenses melt.